Welcome to the Inner-healing Web Site
hosted by F. Michael Montgomery, LCSW, LMFT
LCS 6184, MFC 15488
Therapy for the heart, mind, body and spirit in a safe and healing setting
This Inner-healing web site is a resource center for the support and promotion of personal growth and healing.
My desire is to support people in their own healing through the compassionate and courageous work of their hearts.
Below are several categories which contain some of the quotes that I find to be inspiring. Enjoy!
If there are any quotes that you would like to recommend to me, please E-mail your quote to me.
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The following quotes speak of ways of truly being present both with ourselves and with others. Enjoy!
Show up, or choose to be present.
Pay attention to what has heart and meaning.
Tell the truth without blame or judgment.
Be open to outcome, not attached to outcome.
Angeles Arrien from her book: The Four-Fold Way: Walking the Paths of the Warrior, Teacher, Healer and Visionary
Real stories take time. We stopped telling stories when we started to lose that sort of time, pausing time, reflecting time, wondering time. Life rushes us along and few people are strong enough to stop on their own. Most often, something unforeseen stops us and it is only then we have the time to take a seat at life's kitchen table. To know our own story and tell it. To listen to other people's stories. To remember that the real world is made of just such stories.
Until we stop ourselves or, more often, have been stopped, we hope to put certain of life's events "behind us" and get on with our living. After we stop we see that certain of life's issues will be with us for as long as we live. We will pass through them again and again, each time with a new story, each time with a greater understanding, until they become indistinguishable from our blessings and our wisdom. It's the way life teaches us how to live.
So many of us do not know our own story. A story about who we are, not what we have done. About what we have faced to build what we have built, what we have drawn upon and risked to do it, what we have felt, thought, feared, and discovered through the events of our lives. The real story that belongs to us alone.
Rachel Naomi Remen from her book: Kitchen Table Wisdom
The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing, and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is the friend who cares.
Fear can be so present in our lives without our even knowing it. Here are some quotes that encourage us to face our fears so that we may move beyond them.
If we think of this existence of the individual as a larger or smaller room, it appears evident that most people learn to know only a corner of their room, a place by the window, a strip of floor on which they walk up and down. Thus they have a certain security. And yet that dangerous insecurity is so much more human which drives the prisoners in Poe's stories to feel out the shapes of their horrible dungeons and not be strangers to the unspeakable terror of their abode.f we think of this existence of the individual as a larger or smaller room, it appears evident that most people learn to know only a corner of their room, a place by the window, a strip of floor on which they walk up and down. Thus they have a certain security. And yet that dangerous insecurity is so much more human which drives the prisoners in Poe's stories to feel out the shapes of their horrible dungeons and not be strangers to the unspeakable terror of their abode.
Rainer Maria Rilke from his book: Letters To A Young Poet
What does the voice of fear
whisper to you?
Fear speaks to you
in logic and reason.
It assumes the language
of love itself.
Fear tells you,
"I want to make you safe."
"You are safe."
Emmanuel from his book: Emmanuel's Book II
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson from her book: A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles
Grief may touch our lives in profound ways and if we are willing to be both gentle and courageous with ourselves and explore it, we can discover our own healing and what it has to teach us.
Your grief for what you've lost
lifts a mirror up
to where you're bravely working...
As a child I could often feel the pain of others in my heart. It made me angry to be alive in such an anguished world. I couldn't stay open to the suffering I saw around me, or to the pain within. It took me years to allow my heart its vulnerability. The grief had torn me open but I hadn't known what to do with the pain...
Grief can have a quality of profound healing because we are forced to a depth of feeling that is usually below the threshold of awareness. Though many of our motivations come from this level of fear, of loss, yet we don't know where these volitions originate. We simply find ourselves lost in action, in anger or fear, pushing away others, grasping at what we imagined to be our safety, constantly guarding our heart.
This tearing open of the heart leaves us exposed to that which has caused us and our loved ones the pain of imagined separateness so often before. This experience of discovery that grief leads us to is, for some, like going below ground level to look at the roots of a tree whose branches and twigs, leaves and flowers were all you thought were meaningful.
It is the tree of life, of your life...
Stephen Levine from his book: Who Dies?
is the breaking of the shell
that encloses your understanding.
(See also Loss & Grief Books)
(See also What Is Grief Article)
(See also Grief Obstacles Article)
We are all in relationships in this life together and what we can learn through our relationships with ourself, with our spouses and partners, family and loved ones is ever open. Enjoy!
One day I said, "I will go out and look for my enemies" and that day I found no friends.
The next day I said, "I will go out and look for my friends" and that day I found no enemies.
Native American Proverb
The distance from your pain, your grief, your unattended wounds, is the distance from your partner. And the distance from your partner is your distance from the living truth, your own great nature. Whatever maintains that distance, that separation from ourselves and our beloveds, must be investigated with mercy and awareness. This distance is not overcome by one "giving up their space" to another, but by both partners entering together the unknown between them. The mind creates the abyss but the heart crosses it.
Stephen and Ondrea Levine from their book:
Embracing the Beloved: Relationship As A Path of Awakening
(See also Relationship Books)
Love is the key to our healing, our trusting and our growing. May we be ever open to living it fully.
The heart is an unerring compass
within each one of you.
The heart knows the soul
better than the mind does...
The only path that is right for you
is the one that is already designed within you.
To find this path
you have to hear your own heart.
There simply is no other way.
While the small mind, in its fear,
is rigid and controlling,
the deeper part of you will begin to whisper
the truth of your eternal safety
and your Oneness with God.
So listen to your heart.
This is where your light is
and your truth.
Emmanuel from his book: Emmanuel's Book
There are only four questions of value in life:
What is sacred?
Of what is the spirit made?
What is worth living for?
What is worth dying for?
The answer to each is the same.
Don Juan DeMarco (the movie)
Some thoughts on healing and what it means in our lives.
All healing is essentially
the release from fear.
From the book: A Course in Miracles
Touching with mercy and loving kindness the pain we all share,
we receive the healing we took birth for.
Stephen Levine from his book:
Guided Meditations, Explorations and Healings
(See also Healing Books)
Our lives are transformed as we actively take part in fully living our lives with all the fear and heartbreak which become the keys to our healing and transformation when we live our lives compassionately.
Care of the soul...appreciates the mystery of human suffering and does not offer the illusion of a problem-free life. It sees every fall into ignorance and confusion as an opportunity to discover that the beast residing at the center of the labyrinth is also an angel.
The Greeks told the story of the minotaur, the bull-headed flesh-eating man who lived at the center of the labyrinth. He was a threatening beast, and yet his name was Asterion-Star.
We have to care for this suffering with extreme reverence so that, in our fear and anger at the beast, we do not overlook the star.
Thomas Moore from his book: Care of the Soul
is not freedom
from the storm
within the storm
THE HERO'S ADVENTURE
Furthermore, we have not even to risk the adventure alone, for the heroes of all time have gone before us. The labyrinth is thoroughly known. We have only to follow the thread of the hero path, and where we had thought to find an abomination, we shall find a god. And where we had thought to slay another, we shall slay ourselves. Where we had thought to travel outward, we will come to the center of our own existence. And where we had thought to be alone, we will be with all the world.
Joseph Campbell from his book:
The Power of Myth
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F. Michael Montgomery, LCSW, LMFT